Have you ever received good advice from your mother? I’ll never forget one such prodding that changed my life. In honor of our Thanksgiving holiday, I’d like to share my “Thank You Bridge” story for this week’s story of hope.
When I was a young teen of just thirteen years, I was ostracized in school by all the girls in my class because of a bully. For no good reason, this particular girl decided that she didn’t like me and the rest of the crowd followed her lead.
That mean girl’s name was Bernadette.
One day she decided to have a birthday and sleepover party and things got worse for me. Bernadette invited every girl in the class… except me.
As the party approached, all the girls talked anxiously about this fabulous event. Every day at school they chatted with excitement, and I struggled to hold back the tears as I heard them. As soon as I’d got home, I’d run to my room and cry, “Why was I excluded? Life is just not fair.”
To make matters worse, everyone decided to go bowling the following day. And of course, I was not invited.
But a few days before the party, I received an unexpected phone call from a girl named Susan. Having the guts to go against the crowd, she invited me to join her bowling. Certainly it was a nice gesture, but I knew I couldn’t accept. Afterall, I had my pride. Plus, it would be hard to face Bernadette and the other girls. Actually, it was easier to stay upset and hold on to these hurts. In a strange sort of way, it brought comfort. So I naturally responded, “Thanks Susan, but NO THANKS!”
In the meantime, my mother heard the phone ring and asked who it was. I relayed Susan’s invitation, and my “‘NO THANKS” reply. But mom wouldn’t allow me to stay stuck. She strongly encouraged me, “That took guts for Susan to invite you. YOU HAVE TO GO. You call Susan right back and tell her yes “ Thankfully, at my mother’s insistence, I listened and obeyed.
Saturday came and my parents drove me to the bowling alley. I was scared to death to walk into the building, but when I did, Susan immediately saw me and kindly asked me to join her. Then — everyone followed Susan’s lead. WOWee!
Too many times we think we can’t step forward and we make excuses.
–It will be too painful.
–I have my pride to think about.
–I’ll have to give up my hurts.
–I’ll have to face that challenge.
–I’ll have to change.
–It’ll be uncomfortable.
There will always be a reason “why not”. So when someone steps out of their comfort zone to graciously offer help, shouldn’t you consider it?
God always wants to help us somehow someway. So why would you choose to stay where you are?
That day I learned a valuable lesson that stays with me still today…
Instead of saying “Thanks, but no thanks”…..
say “THANKS!” and cross that bridge.