Did you ever get any good advice from your mother? I’ll never forget one such prodding that changed my life when I was just 13 years old. I found myself ostracized in school because one particular girl decided she didn’t like me and the rest followed her lead. I could have easily missed crossing this bridge, but happily for me – I learned a great lesson.
That mean girl’s name was Bernadette, and on this occasion she was having a birthday and sleepover party. She invited every girl in the class – except me. As the party approached, all the girls talked daily about this fabulous event. Every day at school I’d hold back the tears and cry as soon as I got home, “Why was I excluded?” To make matters worse, everyone decided to go bowling the next day. And of course, I was not invited. 🙁
But a few days before the party, I received an unexpected phone call from a girl named Susan. She had the guts to go against the crowd and invite me to join her bowling. Certainly it was a nice gesture, but I knew I couldn’t accept. Afterall, I had my pride. Plus, it would be hard to face Bernadette and the other girls. Actually, it was easier to stay upset and hold on to these hurts. In a strange sort of way, it brought comfort. So I naturally responded, “Thanks Susan, but NO THANKS!
In the meantime, my mother heard the phone ring and asked me who it was. I relayed Susan’s invitation, and my “‘NO THANKS” reply. But mom didn’t let up! She said, “That took guts for Susan to invite you. YOU HAVE TO GO. You call Susan right back and tell her ‘yes’! ” Thankfully, at my mother’s insistence, I listened and obeyed.
Saturday came and my parents drove me to the bowling alley. I was scared to death to walk into the building, but when I did, a miracle occurred! Susan immediately saw me and kindly greeted me to join her. Then — everyone followed Susan’s lead. WOWee!
I learned a great lesson that day. Too many times we think we can’t step forward.
–It will be too painful.
–I have my pride to think about.
–I’ll have to give up my hurts.
–I’ll have to face that challenge.
–I’ll have to change.
–It’ll be uncomfortable.
There will always be a reason “why not”! So when someone steps out of their comfort zone to graciously offer help, shouldn’t you consider it? God always wants to help us somehow someway. So why would you want to stay where you are? Offenses are a terrible thing to hold on to!
Instead of saying “Thanks, but no thanks”…..
say “THANKS!” and cross that bridge.